One of my favorite passions is learning more about the brain and how it works, both to stay healthier and to create more joy and happiness in my life. Particularly as we travel through the journey of aging in the third chapter of life, we are faced with uncertainty and this alone can lead to feeling stressed.
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I look back on it now and still wonder what took me so long. Accepting the loss of what was and coming to grips with what is can make you feel like you are going crazy and you strangely wait for things to return to normal, even if it is very evident that that is not going to happen. Dr. Daniel Amen, author of Use Your Brain To Change Your Age explains, 香蕉视频直播淚t will comfort you to know that you are not going crazy; but your deep limbic system, where your emotions of connection and bonding are stored, is going through withdrawal from the person you love as bad as that of any drug withdrawal.香蕉视频直播� Immediately following a major loss (even when the person has not actually died) your prefrontal cortex may be overwhelmed by the limbic system (feeling and mood center) and temporarily cease to function well.香蕉视频直播�
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It would be nice if we all had a Stress Monitoring wristwatch that gave off a gentle signal when our stress levels are going into the danger zone. One interesting way to help identify whether you are at risk is to take the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale. We sometimes need to see things in writing to help motivate us to stop and reassess what香蕉视频直播檚 going on in our lives. If you wish to check out your own stress inventory go to https://www.stress.org/holmes-rahe-stress-inventory/.
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Marjorie Horne is the host of Engaging in Aging on AM1150, Sundays at 9am and owner of Caresmart Seniors Consulting..
Cconnect at marjorie@caresmart.ca or 250-863-9577.
