Lisa Curry, Local Journalism Initiative Reporter MEGAPHONE MAGAZINE

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Louise, of course, was cool as a cucumber throughout the event. I kept glancing over at her table to see her holding court with her current date.

Me? I was too tired to fully embrace the moment. I consoled myself: face-to-face dating must be better than online dating, right?

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Today, online dating has morphed into something more complex. There are multiple platforms and everyone has their own approach. Some prefer to meet up quickly (highly recommend), some juggle multiple conversations, forgetting what they said last to whom, and some prefer to invest in lengthy text-based courtships before meeting.

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Shark-infested waters

With all of this choice, you would think online dating would be more positive.

Yet, in a Pew Research Center poll published in August 2020, 47 per cent of those polled said dating had become harder over the past 10 years since dating apps took hold. This number is even higher now after years of the COVID-19 pandemic, increased isolation and growing polarization. A 2023 survey by the Thriving Center of Psychology found that 56 per cent of adults now say that dating is harder than it has been in previous years.

There are also reports that fewer young people are having romantic relationships during their teenage and young adult years, in stark contrast to previous generations.

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Lisa Curry is the executive director of Megaphone, Louise Boilevin is a Downtown Eastside advocate, activist and Megaphone vendor.